Research page:Internal Guidance
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Making conditions
Many people think: When i make a difficult condition, God or spirit world will bring the results. That thinking is like a fighter who expects to win a match by making some simple but extreme conditions in advance. For example, he does a few hundred push-ups each day, and because he sacrifices so much, because he is so determined, he expects a miracle to happen that he is going to win the fight.
Of course he has to make conditions. He has to study the enemy, find and overcome his own weaknesses, focus on learning moves that can elevate his fighting, work on his faith, etc. He needs to make many 'conditions,' as many as are needed to reach the goal. That goal is to win the match.
Our goal is to win the match against evil. Our goal is to learn living in God's ideal. Continuous daily conditions are needed of many kinds. When we lost, we need to reflect, to do more, not give up, hone our spiritual muscles, get rid of weaknesses, etc.
Marrying a widowed vs a divorced person
- In terms of the future in the spirit world, is it better to marry a divorced or a widowed person?
This question cannot be answered so simply, or in general.
What is the situation of married couples in the spirit world? There are many situations for them. Many married couples don't meet in the spirit world. Their spiritual situations are just too different and in many cases, their love for each other wasn't spiritual but more physical.
The situation in spirit world is slightly different for those who married under a blessing given by an important central figure. For example, if people married because they both love Jesus, they can meet each other when they attend a meeting with Jesus. This example was about Christians, but you understand the implications for Blessed Couples.
Your question is about marrying a divorced person versus a widowed one. A widowed person may have a more open heart but there still is the old partner. However, also a divorced person in most cases still carries a legacy from having been married. A marriage changes people. We learned about the fall, that through a sexual spiritual and/or physical relationship people can lose their faith in God. One reason for this is that spiritual elements pass from one person to the other in acts of love. This is how good marriage partners can help each other, elevate each other, recreate each other, but in many cases this exchange of elements is not so good. So both a widowed and a divorced person will often still carry elements of the old partner and a new partner must prepare to deal with that.
I don't want to make this too complex, but you see that it is not simple and that your question cannot be answered with a straight choice.
The main question to ask in such cases is in prayer to God: What partner does God want you to have? God knows who is best for you. When you have a mission for God it can happen that your spouse cannot follow, and in some cases it is necessary to marry a new partner, so you can fulfill the mission given to you. These kinds of considerations need to be taken seriously with respect to your own situation and with respect to that of the partner, widowed or divorced, or even still a virgin.
If a widowed person still loves the deceased partner, and that partner in spirit world still loves the physical spouse, and if they were meant for each other, it could be a sin to marry that widowed person. But sometimes a widowed person is not only widowed, but also in fact divorced from the partner in the spirit world.
A divorce can have taken place on good grounds (i mean spiritual good grounds, not necessarily legal), but some divorces are morally wrong.
All such matters must be considered and will differ from person to person. It needs research and questioning and prayer to come to a good conclusion.
- Question about the ideal partner and the role of feeling attracted to a person.
In general, to whom people are drawn says something about the course they must go. It's like you attract or are attracted to the person who can help you to restore historical inherited problems. Of course, that liking should always be checked as some people can fall too much for physical attractions.
In any case, i would especially consider the future in the spirit world for both you and a possible marriage partner. That means, the long term is more important than the short term. I would desire for a partner who also has this vision to prepare for the future in spirit world.
A good matching, that is one that God wants, is one that considers both the past and the future. In case you won't have physical children, you can adopt children, if not in the physical world, it can be done in the spirit world. A matching between a man and a woman is to liberate their ancestors, it is for your own development and training, and it is for the future generations. Ideally, you're going to share a common mission, so in that sense the marriage also will be for all mankind.
Who the ideal partner is depends on many factors. It can change over time. Sometimes the person meant for you is not available anymore, such is life. People change, people make wrong choices, we ourselves make mistakes, and all these factors have influence on who's the best spouse when the time has come.
You can know in your own heart who's best for you. Make your own decision and choice, i would advise, but take your time for this until you're sure. That certainty will come and when it comes it is the sign to go ahead. If it wouldn't come, then wait.
Something to also consider: A new marriage that comes after an older marriage always has in it the function to restore whatever went wrong with the old marriages, of both partners. It doesn't necessarily make it easier to choose a partner, but it means that you can expect many parallel situations, recurring emotions and feelings and conflicts to arise in the new marriage.
